Pay for Performance Pricing Models for Search Engine Optimization
I do think that it is entirely possible for an SEO and client to work out a pay for performance pricing structure that is fair to both. Logistically, though the tracking involved to this would add additional layers to the total process of ranking and reporting. If both the SEO and the client are willing to take that on and set parameters that are agreeable between them then by all means a fair agreement can be reached.
Personally, I would not price SEO services based on performance unless I was given 100% control over the client’s website, something very few clients are willing to hand over, and rightfully so. (This is a lesson I learned the hard way, more than once.)
I love analogies, so I’ll provide one here: Providing SEO services based on performance (without 100% site control) is akin to a dietician asking to be paid based on the amount of weight lost by a client they are consulting. The dietician may set the plan, medications, workout schedule and menu for their client, however if the client sneaks Big Macs and Ice cream on the side, lounges on the couch instead of getting on the treadmill, or adds a few extra high-carb foods into their meals, then the client is not likely to lose much, if any, weight.
If the dietician was able to monitor the client 24 hours a day and ensure that the plan was being followed explicitly, then (and only then), real success can be assured and a pay for performance pricing model would be work.
In the SEO business, there is a lot that can be done to a client’s site that is likely to gain them success. However, even in the best of circumstances limitations to what can be performed on a site are inevitable. Does the SEO have free range over the entire site or just a few pages? Do they have permission to re-design the site, reword content significantly or change the navigational structure? Can the SEO dictate to the client how they should answer their phone or respond to email inquiries?
These are all important issues that lend directly to the sales conversion ratio achieved.
Another issues with pay for performance is tracking. Does the SEO have complete access to all sales statistics, including costs, profits and overhead? If payment model is based on profits, rather than just sales, does the SEO have a say in how the client spends his/her revenue? Does the SEO also have a say in regard to pricing? This, too, can have a great effect on conversions.
Beyond that is the issue of timetables. If the SEO does a fantastic job of increasing the clients sales and profits, can the client at any time fire the SEO to start hoarding all the additional profits for themselves? A pay for performance would only be fair if the SEO was guaranteed to receive the benefits of their optimization efforts for up to 12 months AFTER they had been released by the client. After all, good SEO does have long-ranging effects, and not just on top rankings.
Once a client is performing well on search engines, many other things begin to happen naturally, that would not have happened before. The most obvious is obtaining natural links from other websites. Now that the site is known and/or popular, thanks to the work of the SEO, the snowball that the SEO had started continues to roll, and therefore the SEO should rightfully reap those benefits.
I don’t think it is impossible for an SEO to charge based on performance, and I admire those that do. There are many other pricing models that can be considered outside of what I laid out above, which some SEOs utilize. For me, however, without 100% control of the site I don’t see a workable pay for performance pricing model that is satisfactory. There is just too much that can go wrong with a campaign if the SEOs hands get tied in any way.
Stoney deGeyter is president of Pole Position Marketing, a professional search engine optimization and marketing firm providing SEO services since 1998. Stoney is also a part-time instructor at the community College in Reno, Nevada where he resides as well as a moderator in the Small Business Ideas Forum. You can read his SEM blog at (EMP) E-Marketing Performance. You can email him with any questions at stoney@polepositionmarketing.com
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Freight Shipping News: Business is Booming
Business in the UK’s freight shipping industry has been booming over recent months. The port of Belfast is experiencing one of the busiest periods in its 400 year history. And now figures from the country’s leading sea freight lines show that freight shipping volumes increased by 8% between 2004 and 2005.
The Reasons for the Increase in Freight Shipping Volumes
The greatest freight shipping growth area has been on Irish sea routes. In this area volumes increased by 16% between 2004 and 2005. The reason for increased freight shipping volumes on this route was the acquisition of the Fleetwood to Larne service by one of UK’s main shipping lines. This acquisition added 259,200 freight units to the total volume shipped on this route in 2005.
Furthermore, the North Sea and Scandinavian markets experienced similar growth figures.
The Future of Freight Shipping
According to one of the main line’s directors the future looks bright for freight shipping in the UK. He claims that the continuing investment in new ships and the commitment to the development of its route infrastructure and network will help meet consumer needs moving forward.
He is quoted as saying,
“We are pleased with our performance in 2005, particularly on the Irish Sea. Our Republic of Ireland routes have performed well while our services into Northern Ireland have also demonstrated robust development in a tough market area, assisted by our first full year’s operation on the Fleetwood to Larne route which from day one has proven a very successful acquisition for us.
“In recent years we have invested around £60 million in our vessels in order to improve the quality onboard and create attractive onboard environments,” he added.
Areas for Concern for the Freight Shipping Industry
Despite this optimism, the rising price of oil is a concern for the entire freight shipping industry.
Freight shipping companies that want to compete effectively in the future will have to implement energy saving schemes and other measures to make up for the growing cost of fuel.
GBS freight is a Freight Shipping Company based in the UK.
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Boxers Dogs as Pets - Are They Right For You?…
Thursday July 03rd 2008, 6:32 pm
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Pet Boxers, although low-maintenance, require your consistent attention, exercise, human interaction, consistent obedience training and lots of love. You cannot leave them to their own design for too long or they get lonely, bored and into trouble.
Being a big and strong dog as well as a highly intelligent one, Boxers need both physical and mental stimulations to keep them even-tempered and dignified while still keeping their impish spirit and fearless courage in tact.
How to keep Boxer out of trouble
Their high prey drive (some owners called it play drive) needs proper outlets or they could get destructive as house pets, and tend to fight among themselves especially if the other family Boxers are of the same sex. The female, it seems, is more aggressive than the male.
Keeping Boxers busy is the best way to keep them out of trouble! Tire them out with long walks, 3 times a day. Give them plenty of exercise, play with them, especially the inquisitive puppies or they would tear up your home out of boredom, pent up energy and frustration.
For all your love and caring, be prepared for wet slobbery drool and kisses and love in return.
What some proud owners say about their pet Boxers:
* \”Having a Boxer is like having another human in a dog body with you. You can talk to Boxers and they would understand. They demonstrate feelings just like human does. If they are loved, they will love and protect you.\”
* \”Boxers are the most loyal companions. My Boxers bring me up when I am down. They are the canine clowns of the dog world. They are the only dogs for me.\”
* \”They are a gift! The two I have are always smiling and they cheer me up when I’m not too happy. They can be your friends for life!\”
* \”My Boxer can take up my moods or lay quietly by my feet for hours.\”
* \”Boxers are so intuitive, so easily bored and heartbroken. They are the definition of devotion and courage.\”
* \”If I treat my Boxer puppy as an intelligent animal and talk to him almost like he\’s human, he is more responsive and better behaved, as though he\’s picking up on my sentiments by the way I am speaking to him.\”
* \”Boxers can be very manipulative. They are a lot smarter than they look! Don’t get taken in by their innocent-looking face or let them walk all over you no matter how much their eyes make them look like they are truly sorry.\”
* \”Give up being house-proud and enjoy your \”devil dog\”. Don’t have potted plants because you’ll end up with empty pots. Don’t run to answer the phone because you’ll be rugby-tackled and end up flat on your face.\”
* \”Bringing a puppy or even an older dog into your home and your life is a major decision. It brings with it responsibility and commitment, but it also renders supreme joy, laughter, and sadly, but inevitably, tears. Not one of us who has ever shared his life with a Boxer would have it any other way.\”
* \”Boxer dogs think they are human. Treat them like one - love them, talk to them, cuddle them and value them and you will get your love back unconditionally 10,000 times.\”
Daniel Lesser
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Undies Disclosed to Be Paramount Wish List Items For Modern Women
Monday June 30th 2008, 10:26 pm
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A recent inquiry proves that suggestive smalls are the champion buying items warranted to lead young and mature females to view themselves as sweet. At the top of the luxury lady’s nightwear line, Myla is a well known British firm headquartered in London, Great Britain dedicated to outfitting young and mature females to feel thrilling and self-assured in suggestive lingerie and nightwear. This palette features witching lace top stockings, balconette bras, plus, of course, silk suspenders, winsome sleeping raiments and, even better, fantastic sensual bed-chamber pleasure stimulators.
Wholly dedicated to the ultimate in enthralling bliss Myla’s online shop presents customers with the most stimulating smalls constituted of rich textile fibers covering pure silk satin, lightweight chiffon, bobbin lace and, even better, gossamer mesh. Intended for coquettish today’s girls you’ll get underwire bras alongside silk chiffon skirts, underwired bras alongside matched thongs and silk suspenders or even winsome impish babydoll negligees constituted of lightweight chiffon and bobbin lace. Their top of the pops product range presents customers with structured lace basques, tie-black Brazilian knickers, camisoles and, even better, long silk satin halterneck nightshirts. When trying for unstained witching appeal, lingerie lovers will recommend a exciting quarter cup soft triangle bra or that padded plunge bra pitted against tie-black Brazilian knickers and a silk suspender topped off by silk stockings. By way of recommendation the lovers’ lair, we can buy ace high gloss silk and tulle lace up bodices, silk chiffon skirts, balbriggans, marabou pom pom thongs and silk strops.
For fantastic sensual bed-chamber sex accessories lingerie lovers will recommend clitoral stimulation gear, satin stilettos, silk stockings, silk suspenders and love enhancing scented passion candles. Captivate with feather ticklers, feather fluff & silk satin tie ups, satin blindfolds, eroticizing kukui nut massage oil, flavorsome chocolate body frosting or a impish paddle. Wholly dedicated to the ultimate fantastic sensual pleasure stimulators, Myla’s online shop presents customers with a selection of toys designed exclusively by a throng of ace craftspeople. The aficionado will choose from a rare palette of products covering the sleek look vibrator by Tom Dixon, Jimmyjane’s unbelievably sensual platinum bow engraved vibrator or Marc Newson’s famous Mojo toy.
Myla - for the very best in silk lingerie!
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Unique Gift Items - 3 Creative Ideas
With promotional items there are standards: t-shirts, mugs, note cubes, calendars, magnets and keychains. Then, there is the really creative. Sometimes with a specific campaign, you may want to go above and beyond and really start a buzz about your company.
This is not to say that creativity always costs more money. In fact, a really cheap promotional item can go a long way if the right message is attached. For example, the first idea stems from a friend of mine who worked at a career school. She is ever so quirky and wanted to create a fun item for an upcoming career fair.
Backscratchers
Whose back doesn’t itch? That’s when Donna came up with the idea to get backscratchers printed with this saying: “Itchin’ for a new career?” and then the school’s name. Her boss through she was brilliant and approved the item. The idea was fun and simple, and it worked. People circled around the gymnasium carrying bags full of literature and actively scratching their backs. It helped that her booth also was giving away some bigger items that required people to fill out entry blanks, which kept people at the table longer. The item caught on, that everyone wanted one, even those from competing schools and businesses.
This idea can be applied to any type of industry:
Mortgage/Real Estate- “Itchin’ for a new home?”
Car- “Itchin for a new car?”
Lawn care- “Itchin’ for greener grass?”
The list is endless- just insert your product after itchin’!
Chocolate Bars
There are many candy companies that will print any message you’d like on a candy bar. Unlike other items, this is one that will not last long. However, the item is still memorable. Try putting the message, “The sweet smell of success….” on it and tie it in to what you are offering. They actually will get to taste is as well, which could also be a way to write your message. (”Are you tasting success?”) Either way, this is something that everyone will enjoy and is sure to get a call of thanks. (Just make sure they aren’t allergic!)
Umbrellas
You will be graciously thanked for saving a hairstyle and new blouse when one of your clients remembers that the umbrella you gave her is under your seat. This is one item that is sure to save the day, as well as keep your logo literally in front of dozens or hundreds of people- depending on where the user is walking! Or perhaps one of your clients will keep it in his golf bag, and if it rains while on the course, other golfers will get a peak at your message as well. Some promotional items fair well just sitting somewhere, but an umbrella is something that can be used for years to come. I once got an umbrella for signing up for a newspaper subscription- and this was one of those nice big golf umbrellas- and I still have it! (It had the paper’s name and comic strip characters all over it.) Umbrellas fan out to be pretty big, which means ample space to display your logo and message! There are mini-fold up umbrellas up to larger golf umbrellas. (And, there are even hat umbrellas!) An umbrella is also a form of protection, so companies with a protection-theme (insurance, security, healthcare, etc.) could get extra mileage out of this.
These are just three unique ideas that maybe you never thought of. There are many more creative ideas out there to make your promotional item be effective and stand out from the rest!
Cindy Carrera is a freelance creative author who’s written numerous articles about PR including: business promotional items, custom promotional products and wholesale promotional items.
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Experts in Money Exchange Foreign Currency Exchange
Whatever the needs whilst obtaining or exchanging foreign currencies, Currencies.co.uk might well be able to aid you preserve time or money. The business offer one off abroad exchanges, regular overseas transfers and additionally have options for bringing money back to the Great Britain.
the FCD team can be found to be the leading independent currencies negotiators whilst just been online since 2000 this is comparatively astounding. FCD own a really successful set of agents that have been celebrated in their expert advice and support Another reason they are also hence widely chosen is that for money exchange the FCD team deal with the very best foreign currency rates and the leading foreign currencies trades, this has been well documented by 2 Sunday Times and The Observer. Foreign currency exchanges can be a time consuming process, with the legal issues and different banking requirements, allow currencies.co.uk to take the pain out of the process.
FCD is very painless to use; once folk have opened an account you yourself might be able to set the current foreign money exchange rate by using phone. If an exchange rate should be declared which you yourself take, Currencies.co.uk can often immediately fax, email and post your confirmation. When your staff purchase foreign currency from Foreign Currency Direct, the rates will often be based surrounding live interbank foreign currency rates (the foreign money rate around which one bank sells to another) All these can be found to be aggregated from around a selection of sources, are also cited during real time & might well be loads more competitive than typically quoted by high street money exchangers and building societies. The interbank foreign exchange rate, that most sites and newspapers show can be a mid industry foreign currency exchange rate that is not actually conceivable to trade at. You will probably consistently get a foreign exchange rate somewhat below the interbank foreign currency rate or feasibly sell somewhat above; this is the primary way the business will offer the foreign money transfer.
Because you can be found to be moving abroad you are probably going to be moving large amounts of money into a foreign money, your foreign currency exchange rate might result in the difference between affording some luxurious added features or ending up with lots less than you yourself budgeted for.
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The Introduction to ‘Net Sports Competition Wagers
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Link together the two of people’s predominating leisure actvities and what you will disclose is a rage we know as a sportsbook. What could be more ingenious. Imagine a cluster of dudes cheering in support of a given local players, and almost always stakes will be computed alongside the noise. Keen to get their piece of the excitement, bystanders frequently venture to anticipate who will make it the imminent race. In the end, this all eventually develops into a good-humored race titled sportsbook.
If you want to place a wager, we would advise you surf to a sportsbook, which is a place that receives sportsbook. In the USA, there’s four states where to do sportsbook wagers legally, but beyond legal you can try it anywhere you like as long as you can hunt out a bookie and if you happen to be legally an adult. Included in the sports events you’ll be able to wager on are pro and, even better, college class football and college level basketball, pro baseball, pro hockey, and, even better, betting on both horse and dog racing. You’ll be able to bet on the global tally of a game or fight, in what round any given contestant will be defeated, and even whether a given coin toss in a game or fight will come out heads or tails.
We’ll be able to choose between countless varieties of antes: parlays i.e. combined wagers on some sports competitions, straight bets, where you’ll pick the competitor you’re guessing is most likely to win or go down, over/under antes, teaser wagersc., the straight bets being the general favorite in sportsbook wagers.
So why don’t you simply have a crack at it and enjoy the fun as well. Simply be sure that you won’t get gripped and throw away your total social security checks on a whimsy… For you will certainly catch yourself lamenting it all your life…
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Internet Marketing Secrets Spiel
Wouldn’t you like to know all the Internet marketing
“secrets” that have made me the man I am today?
I live in a house way too big for my beautiful wife and
myself. We eat three square meals a day and can snack
anytime we feel like it! We drive our luxurious Cavalier
to the beach and swim anytime we want (when I’m not busy
making money on the Internet and the beach is not closed
because of E. coli levels or ice fishing).
It wasn’t always this way. I remember just about fifty-two
short years ago when I had no clothes. The doctor had to
wrap me up in a blanket. But I applied myself for decades
and finally starting making money on the Internet.
Did you hear about the guy that made fifty million dollars
in one day on eBay? Peanuts! If you want to make really
huge amounts of cash from e-commerce, listen to a guy who’s
been there.
Why should I tell you (a perfect stranger) all my tricks
of the trade? Why don’t I just keep the information to
myself and make a ton of cash with that knowledge?
These are good questions. This proves that you are thinking
and that people on the Internet are not stupid or gullible.
The real reason I am sharing this information is because
I like people. In fact, I like you. I consider you one of
my closest friends because you are interested in my one
passion, Internet marketing. The fact that you have read
this far proves your interest. Because you are so smart and
motivated, I want to help you.
The fact that I am going to release only 5,000 copies of
my Internet marketing “secrets” at $5,000 a pop, for a cool
$25,000,000, has absolutely nothing to do with money.
You see, I don’t really need the money. We only have three
more payments to go on the Cavalier. My fridge is full of
Canadian beer. So, money is obviously not my prime motivation.
My charging you $5,000 for my Internet marketing “secrets” is
my way of giving back to the community. Really, I’m doing all
this to help you because I want to leave behind a legacy.
I want people to say (after I’m dead and have no clue
about what’s going on) what a great philanthropist I was.
By the way, the lawyer at the legal clinic said I should
tell you two words: “Earnings Disclaimer”.
Even though anyone as smart and motivated and good-looking
as you is sure to make billions on the Internet working two
or less hours a week, he insisted that I tell you. (Aren’t
these creative types hilarious?)
He says: “There is no guarantee that you will make any
money. Some persons are stupid, lazy and ugly and have
zero chance of success.”
What a party pooper!
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MLM Training: How To Call Bad Leads - Part 3
We’ve covered the first two steps, now it’s time to go to step three.
Conversational Recruiter: “Okay, Bob, here’s the question. I work with people who have an interest in making extra money from home, but don’t have the time, or the money, to get started in a business.”
Conversational Recruiter: “When I talk to people, like yourself, there is usually one of two reasons people don’t want to talk to me. First, they are rich, and don’t need any extra money. Or, second, they already are involved in something, and it’s spinning off money so fast they are thinking about starting their own bank.”
Conversational Recruiter: “Which is it for you, so I can cross you off my list?”
Surprise. We asked the prospect two questions designed to disqualify them. What’s a prospect supposed to say to this? This is a modified Menu Move. We call it that because we don’t give the prospect a valid answer to choose from…they have to come up with that on their own.
The prospect could tell the truth, or the prospect could lie and pick one of the two options we gave them. But remember, this is a lead. They filled out a form to find out more information on business opportunities.
If they do decide to lie, and believe it or not, some of them will (that’s not true… most of them will lie) then we should be prepared for that. We have a lot of options to choose from, so let me give you just one way we could handle this:
Prospect: “I do have something I’m involved with, and I’m happy with how it’s working.”
Conversational Recruiter: “I’m surprised. I thought, for sure, it you were going to pick the other one.”
Prospect: “No. I’m far from rich.” [he’s starting to slip]
Conversational Recruiter: “But you are doing extremely well with your home business.”
Prospect: “It’s going very well.”
Conversational Recruiter: “It’s perfect?”
Prospect: “Well, nothing’s perfect.” [uh-oh, ol’ boy may be in trouble here]
Conversational Recruiter: “I don’t understand.” [let’s let the prospect dig themselves into a deeper hole]
Prospect: “Well, my income has been flat the last few months, and I’m getting a little concerned.” [check - we are only a couple of moves from checkmate…if we use what we call Fade Moves, he will start beating up his opportunity and will be more than willing to look at something else]
What if the prospect tells the truth and says, ‘neither’? It could happen. What we don’t do is go in for the kill. We use what we call a Fade Move, and get the prospect to invite us to have a discussion about our opportunity. Here’s how that would sound:
Prospect: “Is there a third option?”
Conversational Recruiter: “I’m not sure I understand?” [again, let the prospect talk himself into inviting us over]
Prospect: “I’m not rich, and I don’t have a successful home business.”
Conversational Recruiter: “But you’re not looking for a vehicle to make extra money, are you?”
Prospect: “Well, yes, I am. Do you have something that will work for me?” [that sounds like an invitation to me, but we better make sure]
Conversational Recruiter: “I’m not sure if this is something that you would be interested in. Could you tell me what you are looking for, and I can tell you if this might be a fit?”
Prospect: “Sure. I’m looking for…” [that’s an invitation]
Now the prospect will start giving us his buying criteria. If we honestly have a match, then we have a qualified prospect.
No matter how you are working your business, at some point you are going to have to have a conversation with your prospects before they will make a decision to get involved with you. Conversational Recruiting is an innovative, highly effective, and revolutionary technology to help you achieve the success you deserve.
When you finally have a prospect on the phone, are you giving yourself the best chance of recruiting that person? Are you losing prospects that would join you, if you were saying the right things? Why not develop the skills of a master recruiter? The skills are within your grasp. Conversational Recruiting is the fastest way to gain them.
Ed Forteau & Kevin Paschke are the Creators of http://www.ConversationalRecruiting.net considered by many top MLM income earners to be the Best MLM Training Course ever developed. Sign-up for their Free 15 Advanced Mini-Course and see for yourself.
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9 Steps to Regaining Self-Esteem After Divorce
Divorce is difficult at the ‘best’ of times. Even when a couple makes a combined decision to divorce, it can be extremely trying.
What happens if the decision is one sided? What happens to the party who can sometimes feel blind-sided by one person’s decision that they no longer want to be a part of this union?
Been there, done that. Only I wasn’t the one who made the decision to leave the relationship. It was my ex-husband’s decision. Okay, I helped him make the actual decision to leave (he didn’t have much choice), but the result was the same. Feelings of “what’s wrong with me?” are abundant.
So here are some things that will help you to get your self esteem back after a divorce:
1. Talk to someone.
The first step to resolving those feelings is to talk to someone. Bend a familiar ear…be it biased or unbiased. Whether it’s to a trusted friend, or to a counselor, getting it out verbally is a great start to regaining your sense of self.
2. Be Honest.
If you decide that you’re going to seek help from a counselor, make sure that you tell the entire truth about what you’re feeling. Be as honest as you possibly can. How can a counselor do his/her job properly, if you’re not completely honest?
Regardless of what you tell a counselor, he/she is not there to judge you, merely to listen and to offer some constructive unbiased advice if necessar. Not criticism, just advice.
3. Keep a Journal.
Writing down what’s going on in your head is also helpful, weather you choose to do that via paper journal, or online journal, both are helpful. I find that using an online journal is much easier, as I don’t write nearly as quickly as I type.
4. Get to know yourself again.
It’s typical to lose oneself during the course of a relationship. I know I did! So after my divorce, I took some time to get to know “Me” all over again. Do whatever it is that you love to do! If you enjoyed snowboarding before you were married, get back to it! If you enjoyed knitting, put aside some time to do that. Read some good books, enjoy spending time with new friends, go away for the weekend, go and be you!
5. Don’t let those negative feelings back in.
Once you’ve written down feelings that aren’t positive (”I hate him/her. I can’t believe that he/she did this to me.”) in a journal of some type, you’ll notice that if you go back and re-read those bad feelings (and we all do it at least once), you’re mentally and emotionally back in that place all over again. Re-reading the ugly details of my divorce for instance, used to put me in that mood all over again (I’ve since tossed that journal). So my advice with regard to writing down negative feelings, is to write them down, then discard them. Tear them up, burn them, whatever it takes, but don’t let those negative thoughts back in.
6. Meet some new people.
When couples divorce, there may be a feeling amongst some of the friends of that couple who feel as though there is a need to take sides. You may find that you will need to meet new people, and take a step back from that even for a short time. Get yourself some friends that you and your ex don’t have in common. My ex and I used to work in the same industry, and as a result, we shared a lot of the same business colleagues. So as soon as our relationship ended, I started my own business doing something that wasn’t related in any way, shape or form to what he does for a living. I feel like a zillion bucks .
7. Find new interests.
The next step to rebuilding your sense of self-esteem would be to find some new interests. Find something that makes you feel good/better about yourself. Kickboxing. Kickboxing is an amazing way to get rid of certain frustrations, AND introduces you to a new sport (I brought a picture of my ex to my kickboxing class, and taped it to the heavy bag.). If you enjoy being outdoors, you might consider joining a running club, a rowing club, or anything else that allows you to be outdoors while meeting new people.
8. Make peace with yourself.
Understand that what happened, for whatever reason that it happened, is done. Over. Let it go. Move on. Whatever kind of bitterness that may have existed when he/she left, is going to have to get lost or it will get in the way of your true progress. I know. I did it. Get past it. How do you ‘get past it’? By doing these nine steps.
9. Accept the fact that things happen.
No doubt about it. Bad things happen to good people, and vice versa. Stuff happens more often than it doesn’t. Nothing we can do about it. Can’t control it. Can’t keep it from happening. Accept it. You’ll feel better for it.
Debbie Burgin has been divorced for 5 years. She discovered upon the exit of her ex-husband, that her divorce was actually for the best. She’s discovered that post-divorce, she and her children are happier, and more relaxed in their lives. She runs two of her own businesses, http://www.warnerdigitalmedia.com, and http://www.debbieburgin.com, and counsels other divorced women to “get out there, and live life!”
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